Beginner Basics

1001 Sexcapades If You Dare.           Chapter 1.

     Trying new things can be scary - especially when it comes to your sex life. But wanna know what's even scarier? Letting your libido wither away and die because your sex life has gone from hot to ho-hum. Even if things haven't gotten quite that bad yet, chances are you could still use a little sexual super-charge once in a while. There are few people or couples among us whose sex life is super-hot and steamy all the time.

1.  Say Something Sexy. Tell your partner you want him or her - NOW. Make it simple, direct, and to the point. For added effect, sprinkly in some X-rated words. Ideally, say it in a sexy whisper - or a forceful tone that makes it clear you will not take "no" for an answer.

2.  Open the Door Naked. This is a simple yet obvious strategy that really can't be misconstrued or go undetected. Your partner will usually take it from there.

3.  Do a Sneak Attack. Sneak up on her naked when she least expects it. Brush up against her, or give her a naughty caress or squeeze. She'll be thrilled  at this ambush.

4.  Share a Blanket. This is a simple yet sexy move that can lead to all kinds of fun. Your hands are free to wander and explore - while safely hidden under the protective camouflage of the blanket.

5.  Set the Stage For Sexy Bedroom Antics. A few simple steps to create the perfect atmosphere can go a long way. Preparation  is the key here. Sprinkle the bed with rose petals and surround the room with candles.

6.  Walk on the Beach. Ideally, you should try to find a relatively secluded beach, or at least  one that isn't too crowded with noisy families and teenagers. With your toes in the sand and a drink in your hand, it's the perfect recipe for romance.

7.  Get Sudsy in a Sensual Way. What better way to unwind after a long day than to share a relaxing bubble bath? Luxuriate in a candlelit tub for two.

8.  Build a Fire. Curl up beside a cozy fire and talk all night. Or, let your bodies do the talking. You can even make your own delicious melted treats.

9.  Relive and X-rated memory. Look at your lover and finish this sentence: "The most memorable erotic experience that i have had with you was ..." Then, re-enact.

10.  Trade Nightly Foot Rubs. It's easy, it's intimate, and it just makes you feel good. Soothing a long day's sore feet can lead to an impromptu bedroom romp.

11.  Engage in Silliness. If you're at a bar and it has a dance floor, make out like two high school kids! This night is about letting your guard down and having a little fun.

12.  Write a Steamy Love Letter to Your Lover. Put a little thought into your letter before sending i on its way. Make your letter as steamy and as sexy as you possibly can. Use plenty of hot adjectives in describing all the things you love most about your partner.

13.  Play the "Naughty Name" game. There's something fun about naming your body parts, particularly the penis and vagina. Try "Captain America and Wonder Woman" so you can talk about these secret characters when your out at lunch, at work, or with your parents.

14.  Whisper Sweet Nothings. This is a lost art that should definitely be revived. If you can, come up with something sexy or shocking. Even though it doesn't really matter what you say - just having your warm breath near his ear will probably turn him on.

15. Whisper Sweet Nothings - In Public. Tell your partner - in graphic detail - what you want to do together when you get home. Ignore the glances of onlookers who are wondering what you're whispering.

16.  Treat Your Partner to Some Steamy Shower Action, By Surprise. Your partner is in the bathroom, getting ready for what she thinks will be a typical boring shower. But you've got something better in mind. Wait until she gets into the shower and then slide in with her.

17.  Look, Listen, and Learn While Your Partner Provides and Intimate Road-Map. Take half an hour each to show one another how and where you want to be touched, with the other looking on to learn.

18.  Send Your Partner Romantic Greetings at Work. Send a romantic, lucrid, or sexy love letter to your partner's office, marked "personal and private." Ladies - don't be afraid to add a squirt of your sexiest perfume.

19.  Finger Paint. ... Each other. Draw pictures on each other with chocolate syrup. Or, use any other substitute of edible material.

20.  Write on Each Other. While naked and lying in bed together, use your fingers to draw letters on your partner's back. Make it a sexy message.

21.  Write On - to the Next Level. Spell out a sex act you would like to do to your partner. If you want to make it easier for him to figure out, stick to something you can spell in a few letters. If he can guess what you have written, he gets to enjoy the sex act.

22.  Get a DVD DEMO. Watch a how-to sex tape or DVD together for some ways to break away from the normal!Look into Kama Sutra and other unfamiliar territory.

23.  Cook Naked. Food and sex are the ingredients of a steamy session following a delicious kitchen cookoff. Once your done, try feeding each other.

24.  Cop a Feel. Come up with every possible excuse to touch your partner's private areas. Make it as sexy, funny, or creative as you like.

25.  Be Direct. Sometimes you just can't rely on hints and subtle glances to get your message across. If you man is ignoring you while watching the game, just go up to him without a word and plant a deep, long kiss on him. Grab his hand and say, "You. Me. Bedroom."

26.  Be Impatient. You should not be forced to wait until your partner feels like meeting your needs. After all, you deserve the top spot on her priority list!

27.  Spend the Weekend in Bed. Want forty-eight hours of pure bliss? Here are some tips: Start by clearing your schedule. The only work you're going to be doing over the weekend is pleasing your lover in between the sheets!

28.  Kiss and Make Up. They say a good makeup session can almost make a fight worthwhile. In the middle of a fight, call it quits by taking your partner in your arms and engaging in a passionate kiss.

29.  Be Slackers. Give yourself permission to be lazy for on day. Play impromptu hooky from work or school just to enjoy each other. You don't even need to get out of bed at all if you don't feel like it.

30.  Have Lunch Time Sex. Have a naughty nooner. Even if you don't make lunch for your lover, you could try leaving a love note in his or her briefcase. The idea is pretty basic and the plan is simple. Make it hot and steamy. Invite your lover to meet you somewhere private for an afternoon quickie.

31.  Have Sex First Thing in the Morning. Take advantage of that morning wood. Great sex first thing in the morning with your lover? Can you imagine a better way to start your day?

32.  Kiss. A lot. Kissing is often seen as just as prelude to something bigger and better. Appreciate kissing as an exciting experience on its own, not just when you are hoping it will lead to something else.

33.  Increase the Frequency. Of course, we all know that quality counts when it comes to sex. But let's face it - quantity is important, too. It's an inevitable circle: the more sex you have, the more sex you want.

34.  Enjoy Quickies (Once in a While). No, you shouldn't try to exist solely on quickies, but at times when a long interlude is out of the question, a quickie can tide you over nicely for a while.

35.  Make Love at Midnight. Sex in the middle of the night can be an extremely satisfying experience. It workds best when you're both still very much asleep, but very willing and easily coerced into having sex.

36.  Give Your Partner and X-Rated Gift. Give your lover a signed, framed photo of your most preferred body part.

37.  Spoon. Simple, right? You'd think so, but many couples seem to keep a world of space between them. That physical distance can quickly morph into emotional distance if you aren't careful.

38.  Read a Classic Sex Book - Together. There are lots of great choices - try the "Joy of Sex" or a similar staple of the sexual hot-to tomes.

39.  Make a Date. Who says sex always has to be spontaneous? These days, we all have busy schedules. Sometimes things need to be planned in advance, and sex is not exception. Coordinate your schedules, synchronize your calendars, and set a date that works for both of you.

40.  Focus on Foreplay. Too many couples, especially those that have been together for a while, skimp on foreplay. Yes, the "main attraction" is enjoyable, but it's not the only thing on the menu.

41.  Do Some Dirty Dancing. It is a pretty well-known fact that dancing - especially dirty dancing, the kind where you are virtually guaranteed to have close contact that often includes grinding and rubbing - often leads to sex.

42.  Explore Oral. Some people rule out oral sex without giving it a fair shot. Most of the common concerns or fears related to oral sex can easily be solved with simply strategies such as using flavored and/or scented body oil.

43.  Give One Sexual Command. If you can't bring yourself to give your partner step-by-step directions on how to please you sexually, start small by giving him one simple directive. Agree to let him do the same. The command can be something short and sweet, such as "Let me be on top more often" or "Touch me there a little harder."

44.  Try a Toy. Now that you have ventured into new things, it is time to tiptoe your way into the world of toys. Sex toys, of course. If you're clueless when it comes to sex toys, they can seem intimidating. So start off small with, say, a sensual body feather or a simple blindfold.

45.  Make one Change to Your Sexual Routine. News flash: It doesn't take much to shake things up in the bedroom, expecially if you've fallen into a rut of doing the exact same stuff in the same sequence. It might be possible that your entire sex life could use an overhaul, but to keep things simple, start off small and make one change.

46.  Announce Your Intentions While you are Being Intimate. This one is so simple, yet you won'e believe how well it can work. Slowly and carefully announce each act before you do it. As in "I'm going to lick your nipples until they're hard."

47.  Ask Permission. Even if you already know what the answer will be, it is nice to ask, at least once in a while. This gesture works especially well with women. Ask permission before doing something, even if you know that you will definitely get the green light.

48.  Be Confident (But Not Cocky). You may be self-conscious, but if you can fake it and act confident about your sexual prowess, your body, your techniques, or whatever, most likely your partner will be so charmed by your confidence he won'e notice anything else.

49.  Come Out of the Darkness. Always do the deed in the dark? Shed some light on things. Conquer your inhibitions by adding light gradually: Start with candlelight, then add a little more light each night.

50.  Have a (voluntary) Dry Spell. Even a long-time partner will seem new and exciting when you haven't seen each other - or at least, had a sexual encounter - for a while.

51.  Have a Voluntary Dry Spell - Twist #1. Here is a new spin on the voluntary dry spell technique. You and your partner can engage in creative abstinence, in which only one particular act is off-limits, or where you can have foreplay but not the big payoff.

52.  Have a Voluntary Dry Spell - Twist #2. This is yet another variation of the voluntary dry spell. Spend a week getting each other hot via phone sex without actually seeing each other at all during that period. It will make your reunion all that much more exciting.

53.  Avoid the Same Old Thing. Make it a game to see how many of your tried-and-true moves and habits you and your partner can avoid for a specific period. Come up with a penalty to impose whenever you catch your partner falling back on one of the old standbys.

54.  Kiss With Creativity. It's great to shake up your sexual routine, but the "variety can be cool" approach should start way before you get horizontal. Real making out sections, not pecks. Try coming up with new and different kissing techniques.

     The good news? You don't need to go really wild and crazy. By trying a few new things from this chapter, you can bring the passion back to your sex life - or make it even more passionate than it already is. Yes, it can be intimidating to break out of your comfort zone. That's why you can start out slowly with these simple steps.  :)